Making the Grade as a Mom


lh_grToday started off badly, with a heated discussion with one of my sons about a recent academic “situation”.  I am working hard with both boys on becoming a more “hands off” mom, that is less of a nag and more of a consultant (as my good friend Pat Gohn has called the role we older moms embrace as our children slip into independence).

With the one who’s almost out the door to college, the letting go has been a gradual transition.  He is a great student (both boys are, actually) and has demonstrated over the past few years that he can manage his workload properly, even if his timing always doesn’t line up with my desires.  Kid #2, just finishing up his freshman year of high school, is equally as talented and wired entirely differently from his brother.  The things that inspire and motivate him are unique and precious, and I’m still figuring them out as we go.

So today was one of those days I regret more as the morning goes on.  A nice drive to school punctuated by a parting disagreement, solidified by a follow up cell phone call that makes things even worse.  Me – left to stew and fret.  Him – likely upset at mom and thinking she doesn’t understand.  Terminal to the relationship?  Likely not… but I still wish I could have the whole thing back to do over again.

This Mom thing can be tough – a lifelong period of on the job training.  I often hope my boys won’t suffer long-term for the times when I feel I’ve screwed up, fallen short of what God wants of me as a mother and of what my family needs and deserves from me.  I guess we won’t know that for years.

In the mean time, we take one moment at a time, do our best, and try to make the grade.


About Author

Lisa M. Hendey is the founder and editor of and the bestselling author of the Chime Travelers children's fiction series, The Grace of Yes, The Handbook for Catholic Moms and A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms. As a board member and frequent host on KNXT Catholic Television, Lisa has produced and hosted multiple programs and has appeared on EWTN and CatholicTV. Hendey hosted “Catholic Moments” on Radio Maria and is the technology contributor for EWTN’s SonRise Morning Show. Lisa's articles have appeared in Catholic Digest, National Catholic Register, and Our Sunday Visitor. Hendey travels internationally giving workshops on faith, family, and Catholic technology and communications topics. She was selected as an Elizabeth Egan Journalism Fellow, attended the Vatican Bloggers Meeting, the “Bishops and Bloggers” meeting and has written internationally on the work of Catholic Relief Services and Unbound. Hendey lives with her family in the Archdiocese of Los Angeles. Visit Lisa at for information on her speaking schedule or to invite her to visit your group, parish or organization.

1 Comment

  1. It’s especially rough when this is the way a day started. I’ve had enough of those mornings myself–and then I spend the day “Monday-morning quarterbacking” every word I said.

    Hang in!

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