Moms Teach Your Daughters Well

One morning last winter I was driving my teenager  to school and she asked me the question  I had been dreading and avoiding .

“Mom, did you wait?”

I told her the truth. Not only did I NOT wait till my wedding night to have sex for the first time but I lived a very promiscuous life which caused me much grief and sadness.  I told her God’s desire for her was that she would have more in life.

Back then, we didn’t have Theology of the Body for teens or fabulous chastity speakers.  Our understanding of sex was all about avoidance of hell had nothing to do with understanding the reflection of God’s amazing love in uniting our flesh with another’s in a reflection of the trinity.  There was no Theology of the Body for Teens.

And yet, although I could my best to explain to my daughters that sex outside of God’s  plan for marriage is just a counterfeit, what was truly missing from my life was simply a question of TRUST and RELATIONSHIP.

You see, I had completely forgotten that my life was created to be in relationship with HIM and that if I surrendered  to Him, He would take care of the details- even down to preparing the man that would one day be my husband.

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you.”

See, the biggest lie Satan tells teenage girls is that they are missing out. They are “missing  out” when they don’t have a boyfriend and all their friends do. Satan tells girls that a boy’s “love” will fill a void in their heart and make them enviable and beautiful.

What nobody tells girls is that if she seeks Christ’s love FIRST she will be pursued by the lover of lovers beyond her wildest dreams and enter into the most exciting relationship of her life.  Seriously.  I don’t know if I would have believed that Christ would be as satisfying, as romantic, as handsome and as real-flesh as a boyfriend. Nobody ever told me. And so I imagined being “good” as a stoic pursuit of “not doing” and all that was un-fun and I failed.

If I had known it was as easy as falling in love with God and living my vocation as daughter, student and sister, the rest would play itself out. I wish my mother had told me that God had my life mapped out for my good down to the smallest detail if I would just stay in His will and trust Him; that His plan for me would be better than the one I could formulate on my own and that if I kept myself pure I would know much joy peace.

So, yes, besides the bad consequences of sin, we need to convince our daughters  to have a relationship with Christ that is constantly nourished by prayer, by EUCHARIST and adoration.  As I write this I am painfully aware of how much I have been avoiding my own relationship with my greatest love, Jesus . So, let me reiterate, the best way to show our daughters is by doing it ourselves first, by example.

Copyright 2011 Victoria Garaitonandia Gisondi

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