The Mystery of Motherhood


Editor’s Note: Today, I’m very happy to announce that talented writer Sherry Boas joins us at as our newest contributor. You may know Sherry from her amazing fiction work with the Lily Trilogy. I know you’re going to love her wonderful perspective on parenting and faith and hope you’ll join me in welcoming Sherry to the family! LMH

The Mystery of Motherhood

Perhaps if we could see through the eyes of Heaven. Changing a diaper would look sublime. Burping a baby, transcendent. Taking a wiggly toddler to Mass, ethereal.

I think I once got a glimpse of what the angels see.

Our fourth adopted baby had just had his intestine repaired and was faced with the daunting task of learning how to eat from a bottle. John Anthony was born fifteen weeks early, at only a pound and a half, so learning to multitask — simultaneously suck, breathe and swallow — was not easy. It’s such a laborious endeavor, that premies have a tendency to burn more calories than they ingest during any given feeding. I used to pray a rosary on the way to the hospital to give him his bottle. I prayed he would eat. And he did. He ate a little more each day, starting with a nipple full and steadily working his way up.

So I was shocked when the doctors told me one day that they were going to put John on a feeding tube.

“He’s just not eating,” the doctor said.

“What do you mean he’s not eating?” I said. “He eats.”

“He only eats for you,” she told me. “None of the nurses can feed him.”

Well, I am half Italian. And you don’t tell an Italian mother you are not going to eat. But I doubt John’s willingness to take a bottle from me had anything to do with ethnicity. Nor did it have to do with biology. I did not carry and give birth to this child. But I knew, better than I know that the grass is green, that God had given him to me. And John somehow knew it too. How he knew it remains a mystery to me to this day, but it tells the story of every mother. The mystery of motherhood is that our lives sustain theirs. Physically, emotionally and spiritually.

So let the pundits debate the value of motherhood. Let the feminists decry it as a lesser calling — inferior to changing the world through politics or science or art. The world will never fully understand the mystery of motherhood. And that’s OK. To tell the truth, I don’t either. I just know that there is at least one person on this earth whose life was sustained by my love. And I can’t think of a higher calling than that.

The feeding tube ended up failing miserably. John stopped breathing when doctors inserted it. They removed it, resuscitated him and sent him home with the one person who could feed him, even though eating from a bottle is normally a prerequisite for leaving the neonatal intensive care unit.

John is now six years old and the best eater in the house. (And that’s saying something, believe me.) I might have been put on this earth specifically so I could feed this child. Giving a bottle to a baby sounds simple, inconsequential and even mundane to the important people trying to change the world by enlightening the rest of us about what a meaningful life truly is. But if God ordained I exist to give even just an ounce of nourishment to one of his beloved, I wouldn’t dream of asking anything more.

Copyright 2012 Sherry Boas


About Author

Sherry Boas is author of the highly-acclaimed Lily Series, which began with Until Lily and has grown into an expanding collection of novels whose characters’ lives are unpredictably transformed by a woman with Down syndrome. The latest in the series is Things Unknown to Lily. The former newspaper reporter and special needs adoptive mother of four is also author of Billowtail, A Mother's Bouquet: Rosary Meditations for Moms, Victoria's Sparrows, Little Maximus Myers and Wing Tip. She runs Caritas Press from her home office in stolen moments between home schooling. Find her work at


  1. Love this, Sherry. So true. You have such a gift for focusing the lens on the cherished little nuances of motherhood to show the very profound impact those details make on the universal front.

  2. So glad to see you here! I’m a fan of The Lily Trilogy as well. What a gift to catch a glimpse of what the angels see in us. I too had a preemie born at 27 weeks, 1 pound 14 oz, and went through the same thing- Marianne would eat from no one else but her Daddy and me. How do they know? Praise God for the blessing and vocation to love on these sweet souls. Now she is 18 mos old and a superb Italian eater. :)

  3. This gave me chills… thank you so much for sharing. I am the Catholic mom of a former micropreemie, born at 23w6d. God places these precious preemies in the hands of those who can heal them… and who need them. :)

    • Awww, 23 weeks, six days. God is amazing. I especially relate to your comment “and who need them.” Isn’t that the truth! God bless you and your family, Jessie.

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