Small Success Thursday: Feeling Off This Lent


Small Success Thursday

Beginning Lent. Last year, my father died on Ash Wednesday. I know we made it through Lent and I even remember what we did. I phoned my sister every day to say a Hail Mary, but I don’t remember much beyond what I can glean from prior blog posts. It all remains a sad blur.

This year, we arrive at Ash Wednesday two weeks before the anniversary of my father’s death, but it still feels very off. I called my sister, and we plan to repeat last year’s Lenten resolution, but I’m also hoping to add my brothers to the mix.

It’s not an epic Lenten vow of prayers, fasting and alms giving but I’ve discovered I don’t live up to those dramatic aspirations. It isn’t that I don’t want to grow in holiness, it’s that I do, and impressive Lenten resolutions don’t help me grow in holiness, they help fatten my ego. I don’t need help with such things: I fatten myself in all sorts of ways. That’s not the goal.

Preparing for Lent, I’ve discovered all sorts of ways I’ve become too fat in my ways.  Lent is a good time to learn we must learn to master our desires, be it for food, praise, or attention. It’s sobering to recognize how much I want to be filled with something, and how often I choose somethings other than God.

My father struggled with weight all his life. He also diligently sought to grow in holiness. He likened the latter process to dieting. We need it, but we don’t like the process, only the end result. When we would go on walks and talk about how much we missed food, he explained that in prayer life, as in dieting, when we mess up, it’s hard to start back on the right path again. When we sin, it’s hard to just put on the brakes and turn back to grace. When we overindulge or the scale goes the wrong way, it’s hard to diet the next day.

He said it’s humbling either way, if you succeed, because of how much it takes to grow, or to lose weight, how much discipline and grace, or because when you fail, you recognize how little willpower you have against your own appetites.

Fortunately, we get to begin again with Ash Wednesday.  So on Fat Tuesday, we had king cake and jumbalaya and made our Lenten resolutions. I threw out all un-mated socks in a fit of freedom (annual tradition), and we figured out when we would all get to Mass for Ash Wednesday.  We begin again.

I hope you have a fruitful Lent, and that this past week was full of great successes.

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Sherry Antonetti is a mother of ten children, published author of The Book of Helen and a freelance writer of humor and family life columns. You can read additional pieces from her blog,


  1. Sherry, I am so sorry for your loss. I will remember your dad and your family in my prayers. My step-father passed away 6 years ago on Ash Wednesday … It was the 25th of February that year. I remember Ash Wednesday more than the actual date. He received ashes in the morning—at his home—and passed away later in the day. I like your simple approach to Lent. I think it keeps our focus on the Lord and growing in love for Him. May God bless you in this holy season.

  2. I am very sorry for your loss. I thank you for your kind post. Simple sounds good. Sometimes I think I overthink Lent, and it shouldn’t be that way….

  3. Margaret Green on

    Thank you for reminding me of some things that Dad said. I treasure hearing things again- or for the first time. It is all a blessing. Love you. Happy Lent.

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