What It Means to Be a Woman


newborn-nelly, by Rotorhead 2003 via freeimages.com

Have you seen this article by Ruben Navarrette Jr. on The Daily Beast? The headline is the most powerful wishy-washy statement I’ve ever read. It reads: I Don’t Know If I’m Pro-Choice After Planned Parenthood Videos. Wow. Even though it is not even close to being a firm declaration, that took courage and I think it is what a lot of people are thinking or at least feeling in their hearts.

The part of Mr. Navarrette’s article that resonated deepest with me is his reasoning for why he has been pro-choice for 30 years. Consequently, it is the same reason that he is “on the bubble” of being pro-life. He says it’s because he is a man. For so long he stood on the sidelines because, as a man he didn’t feel like it was his right to decide what a woman did with her own body. He has come to realize with the loving nudge of his pro-life wife that declaring neutrality is “wimping out” and what it means to be a man is to use your voice to protect a child – your own or someone else’s- even if their own parent is the one from whom they protecting.

Wow again.

My initial response was, “Good for you, ‘man’.” And then I thought, if that’s what it means to be a man, then what does it mean to be a woman? I think to be a woman is to nurture, love, create life. And I’m not just talking about getting pregnant and rearing children. We are nurturing, loving & creating when we plant a garden, listen to a friend’s story, help organize a bake sale at school or drive in bumper-to-bumper traffic to make money to put dinner on the table (often all within 24 hours).

In response to the abortion debate, if to be a man is to protect a child then I think to be a woman is to nurture a child. But how do we do that if the child hasn’t even been born yet? We do that by supporting our local pregnancy centers. We do that by lovingly encouraging couples struggling with infertility to consider adoption. We do that by teaching our kids how to be compassionate towards the girl in school who (rumor has it) is newly pregnant. Our teenage children (or the kids in our church’s youth group) are on the front lines. They are our eyes and ears on the battleground. Take your teenager to a pregnancy center and ask for a tour or attend a fundraising dinner and let them hear a story of a life saved. Most importantly, we pray. We ask the ultimate nurturer, the Blessed Mother, to pray that we will have the courage and gumption to act and that the Lord will put in our paths, even indirectly, a life in need of rescuing.

The worst thing we can do is nothing. That’s not the kind of woman I am. Come to think of it, I don’t know many women who ever sit around and do nothing, especially when a life is on the line.

What else WILL YOU DO to help nurture, love & create life this week? 

Copyright 2015 Abby Brundage

Photo Credit, newborn-nelly, by Rotorhead 2003 via freeimages.com 


About Author

Abby Brundage is a single-mother of two little boys. Since January of 2008 she has hosted The Big, Big House Morning Show on Spirit FM 90.5, the radio ministry of the Catholic Diocese of St. Petersburg in Florida. The show mixes inspiration, humor and family fun (and great music of course)! You can hear Abby every weekday 6-10am, EST and online at www.spiritfm905.com.

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