Living Your Vocation When You Feel Quite Vocation-less

Photo via Pixabay (2014), CC0 Public Domain.

Photo via Pixabay (2014), CC0 Public Domain.

One of the biggest questions of today, particularly for youth and young adults is: What do I do with my life? For us Catholics, this question translates to: What is my vocation? And this question can be an agonizing one.

Am I called to the priesthood? Religious life? To marriage? Well then, why hasn’t my husband or wife arrived already?

So many of us have found ourselves uncommitted to a permanent state of life way further into adulthood than we would have liked. (And I do not pretend to have all the answers to this particular dilemma! Those thoughts are for another blog!) But I do have a few points concerning our vocations that I think are worth pondering.
A few years back, I had the unique privilege of going on a very intimate retreat with the brilliant and renowned author, Reverend Jacques Philippe. He gave a talk on vocations that truly stunned me.

He pointed out that many in our generation are looking far into the distance for the big “call” for our lives, overly concerned with what Jesus wants us to do with our future. And yet all the while, God is calling us in countless little ways today.
He said: if we learn to listen to that quiet and gentle voice of Christ in our daily lives, and respond to the very little calls of Jesus, saying yes to whatever He is asking of us today, then all these little calls will string together and the big “call” for our lives will just naturally and organically unfold.

When I heard this, I thought it was the most brilliant thing ever! And then I realized: this requires a great deal of trust on our part.

Do I really trust that if I only worry about today, God will truly take care of my future? That He will work out even the smallest details of my life?

Recently I heard another priest give a talk on one of my very favorite modern saints, Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati. And this priest said something about him, which I had never considered:

“Pier Giorgio knew what it felt like to be vocation-less, but that did not keep him from becoming a saint. Because he chose to love.”

Everywhere Pier Giorgio turned toward a vocation, he essentially hit a wall. He wanted to enter the priesthood, but his father would not allow it. He fell in love with a girl whom he wanted to marry, but their families would not accept one another. Then he dreamed of becoming a mining engineer, that he might “serve Christ better among the poor,” but even that never became a reality.

Yet he became such a beloved saint of our time—an example for so many of us who might also feel lost, might have shattered dreams, might continue to keep hitting walls—not because he was so successful, but because no matter where he was, he simply chose to love those around him.

It was incredibly simple.

We get so concerned with our futures… What is God calling me to? What is my mission? My dream, my goal, my path, my destiny? Where is my spouse? What am I called to do with my life?

When really the answer is so simple: love the Lord; and love the person that is right in front of you.

As St. Therese of Lisieux said with such wisdom (especially for our generation!):

“I have finally found my vocation. It is love!”

Our primary vocation is love. But again, this takes great trust. If we worry more about loving those in our lives than trying to figure out our tomorrow, can we trust that God will work out all the other details?


About Author

Kara Klein was born on Christmas Eve, 1985, in New Orleans, Louisiana. She began singing and writing music at the age of 9, and released her first original album, A Touch of Your Grace, at the age of 18. Since then Kara has traveled throughout the United States and internationally, sharing her testimony and her music with people from all different ages, backgrounds and cultures. From the time her music ministry first began, Kara has appeared on four different international television programs, and has sung beside other widely acclaimed artists such as Aaron Neville and Matt Maher, and in venues such as Carnegie Hall and World Youth Day. In the last five years Kara has won 6 Unity Awards by the United Catholic Music and Video Association, including “Best Female Vocalist of the Year” in 2008. Kara currently lives in Nashville, TN and is passionate about continuing to spread the message of authentic joy of life in Christ to people of all ages. For more information about her music, public speaking or ministry, please visit her website:


  1. Maribel Nova on

    Thank you for such a wonderful message of encouragement. Love is enough! If only we all could live this call to love well, today.

  2. Beautiful article.

    It reminds me of the day my husband was ordained to the diaconate. Right in the middle of the ordination, I was reflecting on what it all meant for me. What was I called to do or be as a deacon’s wife? Some wives already had it all figured out but I had struggled with it. Until that day. Then it came to me. I was called to “share” my husband with the church. I was called to love him and love God. My husband did not just belong to me any more. He belonged to God’s church. He belonged to God’s people.

    Love is the answer.

    It has been 11 years and I still feel that call to love.

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