Book Notes: Dating Detox



Following in the tradition of several other books released by FOCUS staff to educate and inspire readers, FOCUS missionaries Kevin and Lisa Cotter recently released Dating Detox: 40 Days of Perfecting Love in an Imperfect World.

Many youth and young adults find it difficult to live a chaste life in today’s culture which distorts the true meaning of love. Once they hear the message of chastity, they desire it – but without a concrete plan, they can quickly fall back into old habits.

Dating Detox includes dozens of relatable stories of FOCUS missionaries, students and alumni who have successfully moved from desiring to live a chaste life to succeeding in living a chaste life. It provides a compelling and easy to understand vision of the Church’s teachings on human nature, relationships and the virtue of chastity. Finally, it gives the reader practical tools, habits and strategies needed to live the virtue of chastity with success and freedom.

The book offers a practical “cleanse” for those who want to give their lives to Christ and purify themselves from the poisoned dating culture by living a life of authentic freedom, respect and love.

Kevin Cotter says, “Lisa and I grew tired of hearing from youth and young adults who were held back from a deeper relationship with Christ because of their struggle to lead a chaste life. We wanted to offer them a practical tool that would help them make a lasting change.”

Lisa Cotter adds, “Dating Detox is not a fluffy book; it’s real life and at times it’s quite raw. Rather than preach at the reader, our hope was to walk alongside them as they journey through the detox.”

The book is divided into six weeks; Building a Foundation, The Human Person, Sensual Attraction, Sentimental Attraction, Dating and Moving Forward. Daily readings encourage the reader to fully embrace chastity with purpose and joy. Each day includes a practical application challenge, so the reader can begin to build new habits that will help them gain the freedom to love and be loved.


About Kevin and Lisa Cotter

Kevin Cotter currently serves FOCUS as the Sr. Director of Curriculum. In additional to writing the vast majority of all FOCUS Bible studies and resources, Kevin has authored three books with Our Sunday Visitor, which have a combined sales total of over 100,000 copies. He has been featured on several EWTN shows, on various national syndicated radio programs, and as a speaker at the last six FOCUS conferences.

Lisa Cotter currently engages thousands of youth and young adults each year on the topics of chastity and living life with excellence through her national speaking ministry and blogging for FOCUS. Lisa’s work has been featured on numerous outlets including, EWTN, Chastity Project, YDisciple, Symbolon, Beloved, The FOCUS Blog, Lighthouse Catholic Media, various Catholic radio shows and Steubenville Youth Conferences.

The Cotters married in 2005 and live in Denver, Colo., with their three children (ages 10, 8, and 3). 


The Fellowship of Catholic University Students (FOCUS) was founded in 1998 and invites college students into a growing relationship with Jesus Christ and His Church, inspiring and equipping them for a lifetime of Christ-centered evangelization, discipleship and friendships in which they lead others to do the same. FOCUS missionaries are typically recent college graduates who devote two or more years of their post-collegiate lives to reach out to peers on campus. To learn more, visit us at

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