Catholic Reflections 4 Women - Your Relationship with Your Aging Self


I recently asked my husband to help me replace some of my head shot images on my websites. I had been using a cropped picture I took at an event years ago and it was time for a little better image. After a little photoshopping on some pictures we took in the back yard, he declared, “Well, you’ve certainly aged a bit in the last seven years!” I had to admit, it was actually kind of shocking, looking at the difference in the lines in my face between the two pictures. My once-smooth skin was now blemished with crows’ feet, wrinkles and lines.

Even worse, the computer-enhanced image made my face look plastic. My kids took one look at the edited image and said, “Mom, you just look weird!!!” I ended up having new photos in natural light that left me less “fake” and more like myself, but it was certainly a lesson in humility.

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Aging is a part of life, and I was blessed to today to have the opportunity to review of Lisa Mladinich’s presentation on “True Beauty, Your Relationship with Your Aging Self” for the Catholic Reflections 4 Women Series. It really gave me a lot of food for thought. In a culture that extols perfect bodies and skin, we naturally focus on beauty. Lisa gives us the antidote: finding true and authentic beauty in our souls. She explains how all the signs of aging are part of God’s plan and as we age and grow in inner beauty. That is where we become radiant in our faith. She points out that true beauty is a concept that rightly belongs to God, and in our femininity, we are symbolic of this beauty. Lightly touching on the Feminine Genius and Theology of the Body, she shares how we as women point to heaven with our sensitive, gentle, maternal and receptive natures. With Mary, the Mother of God as the perfect example of self-donation, we as women should model ourselves after her virtues and true beauty. Most importantly she shares how we can grow in virtue and cultivate and eternal perspective in our lives, focusing on heaven more than our earthly lives.

If you are looking for a great program for group or self study this Lent, I would highly recommend checking out the Catholic Reflections 4 Women series!

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About Author

Michele Faehnle is a wife, mother of 4 and a school nurse. In her free time she enjoys volunteering for the church and is the co-chair of the Columbus Catholic Women’s Conference. She is also the co-author of The Friendship Project and Divine Mercy For Moms: Sharing the Lessons of St. Faustina through Ave Maria Press. She blogs at and The Friendship Project Book.


  1. Dear Michele, Am I being oversensitive to think that your husband saying “you’ve certainly aged” is a thoughtless comment? How did you handle it? Is there help for husbands who are blind to their wife’s beauty, who assume a wife has no feelings, who does not know or see or experience his wife as a gift from God? I am talking about my husband, not yours…………. LOL, or what I really mean is COL- cry out loud… except I am learning to just cry in silence…. is that God’s plan for marriage?

    • I did not mean to come across that my husband was being rude or disrespectful. We joke around a lot about age as he is 5 years older than me (and greying quite quickly.) However I do understand that even if we are joking around it can be hurtful to your feelings and I hope your husband realizes what a beautiful gift you are to to him!

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