"Identity" by Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp (

Pixabay (2016), CC0 Public Domain

It is amazing to me how tangled up our identity can become with so many different parts of who we are. Many times, all our attributes, talents, roles, and positions in life are so entangled that we are no longer a person but some merged identity. In our culture when you meet a new person you ask what they do, hoping their career can give insight to who this person is. Many of us make the mistake of learning a person’s career and then locking them into that role completely. If a person is a lawyer it defines him completely. If that person is a stay-at-home-mom it defines her.

No one word, title, or role can define a person. Each person was created in the image and likeness of God. We were created as complimentary beings with hundreds of different attributes, talents, and unique gifts from God.

We were not created to be “mom,” “doctor,” “teacher,” etc. God had more in mind for each of us. It’s easier to relate with others if we can define them and put them in a category, that’s how our minds work, but that’s not who we really are. We are children of God growing, changing, evolving, loving, falling, rising, and learning how to become fully human.

When we find one word to define our identity we stunt that growth. Even if I am a teacher today, that doesn’t mean I will be one tomorrow. We are every moment of our past, each experience we have lived, and dreams of our future. We are more than a word; our identity is more than we can define.

So stop defining others. Instead look for all the good and love her just as she is, stay open to who she will become, and let her grow into the fullest human she can be, in the likeness of her creator.

Copyright 2017 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp


About Author

Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp is a mother of four children and is married to the love of her life, Aaron. Lori has been writing at her own website Faith Filled Mom. She writes about the journey of faith we live daily and how we can recognize God in this world. She teaches theology at a high school level and is also a current student of Loyola University Extension Program of Ministry earning a Master’s Degree in Religious Education. Her life is busy, exciting, overwhelming at times but always bursting with her faith in God. Lori hopes that you will find something that might touch your heart in her writing so that she can continue to pursue her purpose in life; to bring people closer to God one word, one moment at a time.

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