Saying Goodbye to Big Kids


Life changes are hard! When our big kids grow up and leave us for college, for marriage, for careers, etc., it can be hard on a mama’s heart!

This week, CatholicMom contributor Deanna Bartolini is sharing got this topic — one that is close to her heart as well!

Tune in and share your thoughts in the comments!

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Danielle Bean is brand manager at CatholicMom. She and her husband Dan have 8 children and live in New Hampshire.


  1. Hi Deanna,

    I enjoyed your video post today on Catholic mom. I have two kids, both now graduated from college – a boy and a girl. The process of dropping them off at college was exactly like yours – right down to “we need a dolly” for ALL my daughter’s stuff. That cracked me up.

    As for reactions, mine were pretty similiar to yours. But I loved your advice. So many of my friends have told “I’m just going to fall apart when I bring my son/daughter to college.” My (private) reaction was always “why?” . I, like you, have always tried to be happy for my kids and saw their leaving as a great adventure for them–and just the next step.

    So now that my younger one has graduated from college this past spring, she’s onto even bigger adventures. She recently told us she’s moving for a few years to Australia! Oh my! I’m really excited for her. I think… We’ll see when you she gets on the plane.

    Thanks again for your wonderful advice. I might just need to use it this time around!

    • Hi Geri,
      Glad you enjoyed the post. When my daughter went to Australia I was able to go and visit her so that was a definite bonus.
      What I see is moms who have elementary aged kids already anticipating falling apart. I try to tell them that if they believe that, that’s the way it will be.
      At Mass tonight, Fr. said, Mary let Jesus go out on his own and stayed behind and in the background. She can be our model! Enjoy the roller coaster of parenting adults!

  2. Chris McCarthy on

    Deanna, Thank you for your wonderful advice. I’m a mom of 2 young adults who left for college as freshmen just a few weeks ago. My oldest took a few gap years after graduation from high school. They are both getting settled in their dorm rooms and college life, We are very happy for them.
    I am also happy about me! I taught them life skills (cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping for food, etc.) . I believe they are in God’s hands right now too. The tough part about it was having them both leave the nest at the same time. I said “See you Later” when we dropped them off. Then I came home and cried the next day.
    Now it’s time for me to find my 3rd career. I left my corporate job after my second child was born 18 years ago.
    I stay active in my church community, even in the midst of all this turmoil. I have hope for my children to be the persons that God made them to be, even though they have lost their faith. I see that they are doing good things and being kind and making friends at school. That’s a thumbs up in my book of life!

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