Teaching Catholic Kids About Pride Month

"Teaching Catholic kids about pride month" by Elena LaVictoire (CatholicMom.com)

Image credit: By Lars Lundkvist (2014), Flickr.com, CC BY-NC-SA 2.0

The bright and vibrant rainbow flags are out, and the parades and festivals abound. With the carnival atmosphere and the excitement surrounding Pride events, it’s hard for kids, especially teens, to not to get caught up in the feeling of summer fun and excitement. Maybe they have friends or family members that are part of the LGBT community. Or maybe they just don’t understand the problems with attending or promoting Pride festivities. Teens especially are going to want to hear some solid reasons for not participating, so here is what I tell my own kids.

As Catholics, we are called to be respectful and kind to everybody. We aren’t rude. We don’t bully or pick fights. Our friends, relatives, brothers, and sisters who identify with the LGBT community are people first, and we respect the dignity that comes with each person.

For that reason, we respect everyone’s right to freedom from discrimination and to be full members of society. In fact, as Catholics we can even advocate for that. That’s part of being respectful.

We can also love our LGBT friends and neighbors. My husband and I recently attended a family funeral where two of our young nephews are part of the LGBT community. They were also mourning the loss of their father. First and foremost, to my husband and me, they were family. They were somebody’s child and we gave them the same love and support during that difficult time that I would want for my own children in the same situation. And that’s how it should be.

God’s plan for most men and women is a union in marriage for the good of the spouses and for the procreation and education of children. The feminine and the masculine are gifts from the parents that benefit the child. There is value to motherhood. There is value in fatherhood. To say that a family that is bereft of one those characteristics by design is better than a family with both is to say that motherhood and fatherhood are not inherently good and beneficial to the child. Ask your child, “What would our family look like if Dad wasn’t here or if Mom wasn’t here?” It is the blending of these two opposites joined in a marital union that gives a whole family experience to the child. We cannot support a movement that looks to undermine that.

But what would Jesus do? Jesus ate and socialized with sinners. He even sought them out. But He didn’t do that to condone, approve, join in, or support. He was there to convert hearts and minds and teach the Gospel of salvation. He frequently admonished and reprimanded too!

Pride activities condone and support acts and a lifestyle that are contrary to Christianity. The Catechism of the Catholic Church tells us:

Sin creates a proclivity to sin; it engenders vice by repetition of the same acts. This results in perverse inclinations which cloud conscience and corrupt the concrete judgment of good and evil. Thus, sin tends to reproduce itself and reinforce itself, but it cannot destroy the moral sense at its root. (1865)

We cannot support Pride activities because of the proclivity to see bad as good and good as bad. It is especially important not confuse our children with this.

Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! (Isaiah 5:20)

Finally, the Catechism tells us that even though sin is a personal act,

we have a responsibility for the sins committed by others when we cooperate in them:

by participating directly and voluntarily in them;
by ordering, advising, praising, or approving them;
by not disclosing or not hindering them when we have an obligation to do so;
by protecting evil-doers. (1868; emphasis added)

If nothing else, we know that as Catholics we are not called to Pride, but to humility because all of our gifts are from God. During Pride month, maybe imaging that for our children can be the best witness of all.

Yea, all of you gird yourselves with humility, to serve one another: for God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace to the humble. (1 Peter 5:5)

Copyright 2019 Elena LaVictoire


About Author

Elena LaVictoire is a graduate of Baker College and a retired medical transcriptionist. She is married and homeschooled six children. Elena is a public speaker on the topics of marriage, homeschooling, and confirmation preparation. She was also a contributing author to The Catholic Mom’s Prayer Companion. Elena practices and performs with her flute and records with the Peace Together Choir. She blogs at MyDomesticChurch.com.


  1. Laura Range on

    All of this was so, so good!! As a mom of littles, I really appreciate moms like you tackling these tough issues and sharing your wisdom! Thank you, thank you for being brave enough to write about a much-needed topic!

  2. Dear Elena. Thanks so much for a thoughtful article faithful to the teachings of our faith, while being compassionate towards gay people. I’m a Catholic who’s gay. Although it was difficult for me to accept because I love children, I found purpose and happiness in my life by helping to raise my three nieces and nephew (now adults) and as a Special Education teacher instructing children with brain damage. I’m sure your nephews who identify with the gay community very much appreciate that you saw them as family first rather than as “aliens” due to their orientation. Growing up, I experienced emotional pain because of my sexual orientation. Once another student on our elementary school bus spat on me. In fairness, he did apooogize, perhaps because he recognized my distraught expression. I look back on this painful incident and take the attitude that “hurt people hurt people.” I suspect that this student had been hurt in some way by someone else, and so was trying to feel better about himself by putting someone else down. Until I was 3 2 (I’m now 57) I had only shared with my best friend that I was gay. I did finally in 1994 reveal that I was gay to my family, co-workers, and several more friends. Fortunately, despite the great hesitation and fear I experienced in terms of revealing my orientation, I was met with support and love by almost all people. Certainly, I was relieved that my family still loved me. I continued to remain celibate for many years. Unfortunately, for several years I gave into my loneliness, and had sex with men. However, I regretted my acts, and received forgiveness and consolation through the Sacrament of Reconciliation. I still struggle with having lustful feelings and thoughts. However, I have found that by prayer, helping other people (I live in a nursing home) and keeping busy with worthwhile, healthy, wholesome activities that I can be happy. I also have for several years gone to the Sacrament of Reconciliation each month; in fact, the friendly, compassionate associate pastor of my home parish came to visit me today for the Sacrament of Reconciliation and to receive Jesus in the Eucharist. You are probably aware that there is a ministry approved by the Church, Courage, for men and women who experience same-sex attraction. I thought you might find it to be beneficial to mention it to your two nephews. If they have access to the internet, you can go to the Courage website. Hopefully, there is a chapter nearby. Thanks again for your very thoughtful and compassionate yet faithful article. Take care. Respectfully, Tim Donovan

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