Teaching the Sacrament of Marriage

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Marriage

I have been teaching my students about the Catholic Sacrament of Holy Matrimony. Many of the teachings of the church have been very counter cultural and therefore a bit of a shock to them. I explained to them that Marriage when entered into as a Sacrament is not a contract but a lifelong covenant between the two people and God until death. We discussed the possibilities of annulment and valid reasons for them.

One student asked very seriously, “What if you don’t like your spouse anymore? What if you are not happy anymore? Is that grounds for an annulment?” I replied, “No, not at all!”

He looked shocked. I explained to him if you face this in your marriage then go to a counselor, take classes, figure out a way to make it through it and change your relationship with that person. You don’t dump them to go find another one.

I pointed out to them this is the reason why marriage preparation within the Church is so important. The marriage prep usually takes at least six months to complete and helps you to discover more about your future spouse. It prepares you to be able to have loving confrontations and how to handle problems, finances, and children.

Some of my students said they would not want to be married in the Catholic Church because of all the marriage prep. Like I told them, it’s more important to find out everything you can about that person before you commit your life to them.

One of the more shocking things I said to them was that dating is designed for you to find out the characteristics you want in a spouse. I think our culture has lost sight of the reason for dating completely.

I pray that our discussions will help my students to think twice about whom they marry and how much they prepare for it ahead of time. Marriage in the Catholic Church is supposed to be a mutual selfless love filled with personal and spiritual growth. Marriage is not always easy or happy: it is hard work, trust, fidelity, and complete commitment to one another and to God.

Copyright 2014 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp

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Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp is first and foremost a mother of four children under the age of 17. She has been married to the love of her life, Aaron, for over 19 years. Lori has been writing at her own website Faith Filled Mom for over 6 years. She writes about the journey of faith we live daily and how we can recognize God in this world. She has completed her 3rd year of teaching theology at a high school level and is also a current student of Loyola University Extension Program of Ministry earning a Master’s Degree in Religious Education. Her life is busy, exciting, overwhelming at times but always bursting with her faith in God. Lori hopes that you will find something that might touch your heart in her writing so that she can continue to pursue her purpose in life; to bring people closer to God one word, one moment at a time.

2 Comments

  1. Wow, those students are so lucky to have you! You seem to be able to explain these things so well. I hope that you will write more & similar columns on this topic and your students. Thank you! Ann

  2. Ann,
    Thank you for reading my column and appreciating my candor with my students. I can’t help but be open and honest with them. I let God lead my life. So, honestly I am just trying to go and say what he wants me to. I have a blog I write for daily at Faithfilledmom.com you can check it out. Lori

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