The Answer is love

My Church Copyright 2013 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp

My Church. Copyright 2013 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp

Yesterday I posted about a person who was upset with the Christmas/Easter Catholics. He was pointing out their mortal sins of not attending Mass weekly. I posted that our responsibility is to love because that is what Jesus Christ would do. I received lots of feedback. The majority of the feedback was in agreement with Pope Francis, “Who are we to judge?”

However, there were a few people who said it is our job to point out their sins and shortcomings. One person brought up a good point: we need parents to guide us and discipline us to show us the way. That is true. However, we are not the parents of these people who are returning to our Church. We are the arms, hands, and voices of Jesus Christ on this earth. If the first time someone gets the courage to step foot into our Church they are approached with condescending stares and rude remarks, why would they ever return? We want people to come back to Church not because going to Church is a rule but because going to Church brings them closer to God. It is not the act of going to Church that brings people into a closer relationship with God. It is the people who surround them with love; it is the scriptures being heard and the Holy Spirit interpreting them in their minds. It is the sacraments being received. It is the prayer in the silence. None of this will occur if the person is paranoid about the staring glares of the unforgiving congregation remarking about their normal absence from Church.

If we want people to know, love and serve God, as we all should, then we need to create an atmosphere of love. Just like the loving father in the prodigal son. He didn’t scold his son for returning home. He ran to him with open arms welcoming him home. We too should be who Jesus Christ asked us to be, the person who loves others back to God. As Robert Barron said so well, “Love is not a characteristic of God. Love is God.” If we want to be so close to God that we don’t know where we end and he begins then all that we do for others should be to love them.

Copyright 2015 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp
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Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp - mom of 4 teens/wife for 20+ years. Lori has been writing at her own website Faith Filled Mom. She writes about the journey of faith we live daily and the ability to recognize God. She is a retreat director at Sacred Heart Academy HS. She just earned her MA in Pastoral Ministry as well as a certification in spiritual direction.

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  1. That is exactly what we learned from the “What Do Parents Want?” online survey conducted by the Strong Catholic Families national initiative last month. Over 5,100 parents responded to the survey which asked what they most wanted to hear from the Church/church leaders. The results highlight two specific messages that were clear preferences and also indicated that leaders and parents did not always agree on what were the most important messages for parents. The overwhelming top choice was “to feel welcomed” at church. See the full results at:

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