Beyond the Anger Seek the Good


Copyright Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp 2016

Bishop Robert Barron teaches that evil is the negation of all good. He says there is no pure evil in humanity because all that God has made is good. The evil cannot take the inherent good from the person. There may be evil but it is never complete. The negation of good usually comes from experiences of pain, or some type of loss. To witness evil is quite intrusive and disturbing. If you have ever witnessed the good fade from someone and in its place seen only empty, hollow hate, it is disconcerting. If you have ever witnessed hate pointed completely in your direction it is somewhat paralyzing.

So, what can negate the evil, hatred, and anger? Nothing but the return of good. One cannot fight anger with anger, it only escalates and inspires more pain. Witnessing the anger and emotional tirade of someone in pain is a horrible reality. One’s reaction, if good is the goal, must be expressionless, as not to feed the anger. When the emotional irrationality slows down and breaths are taken then the good can start to return. Ministering to a person that hates and persecutes, and accosts one with words of violence, lies, and dishonor is disheartening. The only thing worse would be to believe any of the hate being spewed. The Christian response is mercy, not holding a grudge, trying to become empathetic and praying for the person grasping evil because the person cannot find the good.

Two other men, both criminals, were also led out with him to be executed.When they came to the place called the Skull, they crucified him there, along with the criminals—one on his right, the other on his left. Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” – Luke 23:32-33

As Christians we must see that behind the anger, hate, and pain there is good. To follow Jesus Christ completely we must continuously seek the good even when experiencing persecution.

Today, think of those who have hurt you and try to find a way to see the good.

Copyright 2017 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp


About Author

Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp is a mother of four children and is married to the love of her life, Aaron. Lori has been writing at her own website Faith Filled Mom. She writes about the journey of faith we live daily and how we can recognize God in this world. She teaches theology at a high school level and is also a current student of Loyola University Extension Program of Ministry earning a Master’s Degree in Religious Education. Her life is busy, exciting, overwhelming at times but always bursting with her faith in God. Lori hopes that you will find something that might touch your heart in her writing so that she can continue to pursue her purpose in life; to bring people closer to God one word, one moment at a time.


  1. Thanks for this timely post. I’m having a difficult time with anger myself and it all results from pain – the pain of feeling that I am not enough as I am for a loved one. Every day I ask for God’s grace in my situation.

  2. I am pleased that my words helped you. This writing came from a horrible situation. I am a teacher and a parent decided to make me the target of her anger. She has an illness and I suppose it helped her to unleash hate somewhere, it was painful to listen to and harder to sit without expression or reaction. God got me through it and I hope that somehow her release on me helped her cope better.

  3. This is a very thought provoking post. I am the target of a lot of daily hostility from my son with High Functioning Autism. Learning not to react back towards his anger over the most minuet and large problems with anger is a daily struggle and suffering. Being attacked from your child makes one feel as though their world is collapsing around them. Although I can not state that I have even started to near perfect the act of finding the good in the anger and pain, I do believe this condition Is helping us all become more selfless in our actions, thoughts, and feelings.

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