Allow Your Motherhood To Shine

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"Allow Your Motherhood To Shine" by Emily Jaminet (CatholicMom.com)

Copyright 2017 Emily Jaminet. All rights reserved.

In Matthew 5:15, Christ tells us not to put our lamp under a bushel basket, but rather to let it shine throughout the world. In this culture, what better way is there to spread Christ than through the vocation of motherhood?

A few months back, I was reminded of this powerful lesson while at a preschool pick-up when I overheard some young, college-aged girls discussing how unattractive motherhood seemed to them. These beautiful young women served as nannies for working moms and I was shocked to hear them openly express their distaste for our lives right outside the youngsters’ classroom door, surrounded by other mothers.

The conversation began with one of the girls asking the others, “Do you ever want to have children?” The first responded, “Maybe one,” and the other said, “No way. I want a dog.” The conversation then took a nasty turn as they began discussing their perception of motherhood, emphasizing the expenses, burdens, and impact it has on a woman’s body. Their sad conclusion was that a dog was a better decision despite being “in love” and having boyfriends.

My heart began to break as I heard how the devil had confused such intelligent, well-educated women. How have we turned the precious blessing and gift that motherhood into a thankless and stressful job that most moms complain about daily? Have we personally contributed to others viewing motherhood as unattractive and even allowed these negative feelings to penetrate our own heart?

Just think: A few generations ago, the vast majority of women were stay-at-home moms. Now, we’re at a point where many women don’t even see a purpose in settling down and having a family!

I encourage you to allow your vocation of motherhood to be a vehicle to touch other people’s lives. Allow your love for Christ to be the engine that fuels your motherhood. Recognize that your children are not a means to an end, but rather souls that have been entrusted to your care until they return to God the Father for all of an eternity. With this perspective, it’s much easier to cherish the gift of your children.

To conclude the story, I approached the three young women in the midst of their conversation. After being a mother for 17 years, I knew I was being called to speak up, especially since we were not in a nightclub but rather outside a preschool classroom. With the help of the Holy Spirit, I overcame my intimidation and gently intervened in their discussion beginning with having a large smile on my face I said, “Excuse me. I just want to share that motherhood is a gift, and dogs and children are not the same.” For every mother knows that after having children of your own it is very different than taking care of other people’s children.

For many of us, these truths seem ordinary and obvious, but it was clear to me that these young ladies did not realize what a gift they planned to miss out on, thanks to the contraceptive mentality of society. My comments were shared with love and sincerity but the response was telling as one of the girls responded with a question in return, “Have you ever had a dog?” In that moment, I was happy to be a dog owner and told her, “Yes. And I have children,” including the adorable redhead I was currently wearing in a sling. Maybe God allowed me to be a dog owner just for that one moment, to provide evidence to them that I knew the difference between animal companionship and the love of a child.

I encourage you to take some time to reflect on the gift of your own motherhood, the blessing of spiritual motherhood and the children that you have made room for in your heart.

Motherhood matters and if we all embrace this gift with joy, see its purpose and, most importantly, serve with love, we will truly impact generations to come and our light for Christ will shine brightly in this dark and broken world. Allow your motherhood to be a light among the shadows.

Copyright 2017 Emily Jaminet

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Emily Jaminet and her husband have 7 children. Jaminet shares a daily radio reflection called an “A Mother’s Moment” broadcasted throughout Ohio on St. Gabriel Catholic Radio. She is the co-author of Divine Mercy For Moms: Sharing the Lessons of St. Faustina and The Friendship Project . You can read more of Emily’s work at www.emilyjaminet.com, Divine Mercy for Moms, and The Friendship Project Book.

3 Comments

  1. How sad! I’m conscious of trying to let my kids see that I love being their mother. The oldest two, now that they have some sense about what goes on, sometimes look at the little ones and what I deal with and say, “I feel sorry for you.” With a smile. But even so, I want them to know that I don’t feel sorry for me. In the moment, yes, but I feel blessed more than anything. I hope they – and the other people I encounter – get a sense that, yes, motherhood is challenging and sometimes difficult, but it’s also a great joy, honor, and blessing. One that can’t compare with dog ownership, regardless of how wonderful a dog may be.

  2. I’ve also heard teen girls say such things–I even said it when I was a teenager!!
    I do think that how we represent motherhood to them is so important. It’s not that we need to fake it around them, but definitely put our best side forward, since they don’t have the chance to see all of the internal rewards and hidden blessings.

  3. Oh Emily, thank you for writing this! The world is really confusing many children and young adults right now, and good for you for speaking up. At Disney World last year, I overheard some girls the same age having a conversation that drew my attention. I needed to nurse my son, and sat down next to one of the girls. We ended up talking for awhile. She had a fiancé, I shared how I wish I’d had my children even sooner, and that it erased my selfishness and was the best blessing ever. We even talked about NFP. We can’t be ashamed or shy about these beautiful pieces of our faith – the world isn’t going to tell these girls & you never know how God can use one small conversation to can change the course of someone’s life!! Peace & thanks again!

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