Intentional Summer Rest: How do you do it while maintaining a full head of hair?

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"Intentional summer rest" by Laura Mary Phelps (CatholicMom.com)

Copyright 2018 Laura Mary Phelps. All rights reserved.

We all move into summer with grand ideas of slowing down, and intentional soul rest, don’t we? We imagine ourselves in lazy rockers on the front porch while our ten children quietly entertain themselves with books and trikes and zero screen time because they appreciate all the excitement the outdoors has to offer. We close our eyes and smile as we picture what the warm evenings will look like, as we lock our phones away and all gather around the picnic table outside in the backyard, thanking God for the meal we grew with our own bare hands, savoring the sweetness of the berries our little ones picked with their chubby fingers. And prayer time. Oh, how much prayer time we will have now that there is no more homework or sports or lunches to pack. We just know it in our hearts … this is going to be the best, most fulfilling, Holy-Spirit-filled summer ever.

And on day two, we are pulling our hair out. By mid-July, we are completely bald.

The thing about intentional rest? It needs to be intentional. Which means, we need to plan it. I know. We are all so ready to throw away those rigid routines and schedules and daily planners. We want to live barefoot and carefree and allow the Spirit to guide our days. And He will. However, in my own personal experiences of summers past, what I have learned is this: if you do not plan out your rest, rest will never come.  

You see … at least for me … summer makes me lazy. And Lord knows, after the year I have endured, I deserve a little lazy. But here is the problem with that. If I leave my day up to me, with no guidelines and no borders, and nothing planned, pretending that I am Joanna Gaines …. those places of vulnerability … those weaknesses in me … they become more exposed to you know who.

And so when the kids are all on screens and not on trikes (and my youngest is twelve and oldest nineteen so it would be strange if they rode trikes) and when we, in fact, did not grow our dinner from the garden but rather ordered it from the pizza place, because news flash … we don’t have a garden … and when that required summer reading for the kids doesn’t happen until two days before back to school because as they repeatedly tell me, “Reading is boring!” … well … it makes me a not-so-nice person.

I get frustrated. Angry. Disappointed. And let down. And then, I believe the lie that I am the worst mother and my kids are all slackers and then I go on Instagram and look at the all families who could afford to go on vacation, and all the kids around the campfire singing praise and worship because they enjoy that … all I can think is, “Yup. Another summer fail.”

And so this is where I need your help. What do you do to balance your summer? How do you schedule intentional soul rest and quiet time with the Lord, without your children being raised by the X-Box? If all day summer camps and vacations are not in your budget, how do you get creative in entertaining your older children … who, remember … hate books. (Lord have mercy on them!)

And how do you maintain your prayer life and stay connected to the Vine, when you are surrounded by people who appear to be on a mission to cut that vine branch off … who constantly need you … who look to you to provide the constant entertainment … even though their father is in the very next room?

I would love to hear your suggestions! Because summer is here, and I am dying for rest, and I will bet you are, too. I pray we can use this space to share our ideas and give needed encouragement and have a good conversation … from your favorite summer reads for the mama’s soul, to affordable entertainment for the family … heck, I will even take a simple “me too.”

I just know that together, we are stronger … and I could use some additional strength now … before the boredom and frustration sets in.

My prayer is that when the end of August comes, we can sit on that lazy front porch rocker together feeling refreshed and renewed; still connected to the vine and sporting a full head of hair.


Copyright 2018 Laura Mary Phelps

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Laura Phelps is a wife and mom to four, who enjoys writing, blogging and speaking about her faith. She serves as a Regional Area Coordinator for Walking With Purpose, a women’s Catholic Bible Study, and blogs at www.lauramaryphelps.com.

2 Comments

  1. Thank you, Laura, for making me laugh! I can relate to the “home grown food” from our own garden. (No, we don’t have a garden. But I tried for a couple of years, and I learned that the moms who do that work LONG HOURS. Really long hours.)
    When our children (we have 6) were small, we announced at the beginning of summer that a certain hour each weekday was “reading time”. They could pick any book they wanted, sit or lie down anywhere, they just had to be reading. We also had no video game time on weekdays, and only an hour or two (depending on what we all decided at the beginning of summer) on weekends. It sounds radical, but the kids settle into a routine very easily. And after the first year it becomes a tradition that they’re accustomed to.

  2. I love this! And all I really have to add is “me, too.” I am right there with you, Laura … The ideas I have for the kids (workbooks, reading for 20 minutes, no screen time until X, Y, and Z are done) lasted about a week, and they only got done if I was right next to them. I feel like I am doing more driving around—here and there—which is kind of exhausting. I am trying to slow down and just “be” present to this moment in time … When I notice a time during the day when the kids are playing outside, I try to sit down and read or pray … I am getting more sleep, and that is making a big difference. But the lack of routine is challenging.

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